Wedding Dance Lessons

You'll Always Remember Your First Dance

Your wedding dance is a memory you'll cherish forever, wedding dance lessons can help make it even more special. Whether you want it simple and sweet or a full-blown YouTube sensation, the choice is yours.   Let us take the stress out of planning your wedding dance; no matter what you're looking for, we've got you covered!

At Arthur Murray So Cal, we know your first dance is more than just a memory, it's the start of your life together.  You'll always remember your first dance, make it unforgettable!

Dance Lessons for your Wedding

Tips For Your First Dance

The closer you get to the wedding, the more hectic the schedule becomes. Starting your wedding dance lessons several months in advance allows you plenty of time to learn your dance without the stress of a tight deadline. It also gives you more time, in case you need it. If your wedding is right around the corner, don't worry, it’s never too late!

Choose a song that’s meaningful to the both of you. Whether the song reminds you of a special memory or the lyrics say everything you want to say to each other, choose a song you’ll enjoy dancing to. If you haven’t chosen a song yet, no worries. Your instructor will be able to show you basics that go to any style of music.

Most people think they should dance to a whole 4 minute song. Keeping your dance to around 1 minute 30 seconds will keep you from getting overwhelmed and your guests from getting bored. 

Learning to dance for your wedding can be a fun date night and stress reliever! You’ll make lots of mistakes and require lots of repetition, but that’s totally normal. Just remember to have patience with each other, especially because your learning paces will most likely be different. 

When it comes to learning a new skill, the best thing you can do is let the professional do the teaching. Believe it or not, they see everything that’s happening and will address it at the proper time. If you have any questions or concerns about how your partner is dancing on the lesson, feel free to ask your instructor instead of harping on your fiance. This will ensure a wonderful learning experience for the both of you.

Like with any new skill, consistency is key. The best way to get the most out of your investment is to keep your wedding dance lessons close together. This will allow for less review time on lessons and more time for learning new things. It also helps tremendously with building muscle memory. That way, your big day will be filled with less time worrying about your dance, and more time enjoying your special day.

Since making time to practice is one of the most difficult challenges couples face, why not use the built-in practice time that’s included with your lessons? Group classes are great for repetition and achieving muscle memory and Practice Parties give you a very strong feel for what it will be like dancing at the reception. 

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Things to Consider Before Your First Lesson

  • How big is your dance floor?
  • What is the layout of your dance floor in relation to your guests?
  • Will the design of your dress affect your dance?
  • What shoes will you be wearing for your reception? 
  • Will your first dance song be played by a DJ or a band?
  • Will you have a Father/Daughter, Mother/Son, or bridal party dance?
  • Is there going to be an Anniversary dance?
  • What type(s) of music will be played at the wedding? (Big Band, Top 40, Country, Motown)
  • Will your honeymoon have dancing?
  • How many other weddings will you attend within the next year?

Possible First Dances...

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Types of Dances

First Dance

Simple, Flashy, or YouTube sensation,
you decide!


Get your tissues ready! As the one who’s stood by you and nurtured you through life, a dance with mom should be everything she deserves.


You’ve looked up to him your whole life! Savor that special moment with Dad with a fun or tissue-ready dance as he sends you off into your new life.

Bridal Party

Give your reception an extra element of
surprise and fun!

Wedding Dance FAQs

Having a planned dance is the easiest way to make your wedding special. How many weddings have you been to where everyone awkwardly stares at the lovely couple swaying back and forth for 4 minutes? Taking wedding dance lessons gives you the opportunity to create a special moment at your reception that you’ll remember forever.

Not only will you learn a wedding dance, but you’ll actually learn how to dance together. It truly is one of the best gifts you can give each other on your special day.  Instead of being at the bar, you’ll be on the floor enjoying the countless weddings you’ll attend in the future.  

Generally, there are three ways couples choose to structure their wedding dance: 


A set of planned steps. Choreography can be as simple or flashy as you’d like. It’s a great way to take the stress off of learning a dance when you know what comes next. Having choreography can give you the repetition and muscle memory much faster.

Lead and Follow:

An impromptu method where the leader gives signals of what they want to do next and the follower responds. Lead and follow is a great way to learn to social dance. You’ll learn the different signals and won’t have to worry if you miss a step in your routine. Keep in mind, it will require a little more patience with your partner as you get comfortable with communicating these signals.

Combination of Both:

A combination of both choreography and lead and follow means that certain parts of the dance are specific steps and other sections are impromptu lead and follow.

Your instructor will be able to recommend what is best for you based on how you learn, your timeline, as well as the look and feel you’d like for your dance.

After answering a few questions about your venue, dress, and the look and feel you’d like to have, your instructor will guide you through a few basics of dancing. You’ll already start learning parts of your wedding dance on your very first lesson and leave with a plan of action between now and the wedding.

Absolutely not. If you haven’t decided a song, your instructor will show you a few basic steps that go to any style of music. The biggest hurdle in learning to dance for a wedding is getting the basics down. Once you do decide on a song, they’ll help you personalize it to the music.

We recommend a wedding dance should be around 1 min 30 seconds- 2 minutes (maximum). While that might seem short, it’s actually quite a bit of time, and quite a bit of steps and/or choreography to learn and remember. Even those fancy routines on Dancing With the Stars typically last anywhere from 1:15-1:40. 

If you’re doing more than one song for your first dance, the time can be longer and your instructor will recommend accordingly.

Yes! That is actually a service included with your wedding dance lessons. Since we help with the planning of your dance, it would only make sense that we cut the song for you as well. 

Whether you just want a simple fade out or a total mash-up, we can help take one more thing off of your to-do list.


Whether you want an elegant waltz, a romantic rumba, or a fun swing, we can do it all. Our certified instructors are highly trained in over 30 styles of dances that we offer at Arthur Murray. We are also very experienced at creating fun wedding mash-ups. So, if you want to start out slow and break out into some fun side-by-side moves, we’ve got you covered.

The sooner the better. Planning a wedding can be very stressful and quite costly. Coming in early allows you to enjoy learning to dance together without a tight deadline. It gives you more time, in case you need it, and gives you plenty of time to practice. Learning to dance together should be a fun part of getting married. 


Your instructor will make individual recommendations based on the complexity of your dance, how quickly you learn, and your timeline. But, the most important thing to remember is that consistency is key. Learning to dance is a skill, and with any skill, it takes small amounts of consistent repetition.

While some couples do wedding bootcamps, most couples come in once or twice a week for private wedding dance lessons leading up to their wedding.

That completely depends on you! The more complex a dance, the more time it takes to learn. If you want something simple, it might only take a handful of lessons. If you want something a little flashy, that takes a little longer. Lastly, if you want a full-on YouTube sensation, that can take several months up to a year. 

It all depends on how fast you learn, how consistent you are with your private lessons, and the complexity of your dance. Our instructors are great at recommending a plan on your very first lesson. 

Be assured, we have wedding dance programs for any budget.

Looking to start your wedding dance?  Your first class is only $40!

For the first couple of lessons, we recommend wearing the shoes you are most comfortable in. That way, you can focus solely on getting the steps down and not worried about getting them dirty. As it gets closer to the wedding, you'll definitely want to bring your wedding shoes to practice in. You'll be 100% comfortable on the big day and have no unwanted surprises.

Choosing a song for your first dance is entirely personal. There is no right or wrong way. 

Questions to ask yourself when choosing a song: Was there a song that you first danced to as a couple? Is there a special memory that you had together featuring a special song or a song that reminds you of that time? Is there a song that’s lyrics are everything you want to say to your future spouse?

While there are trending wedding songs from year to year, the biggest question to ask yourself is “Do I like it?” Your first dance together is something you’ll always remember. Make it to something you love!

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